把姐姐给卖了吧！

姐姐总爱抱着妹妹睡觉但是妹妹却不喜欢，她喜欢自在地睡觉。姐姐想通过抱抱来表达爱意，妹妹不领情还很生气地向我投诉“妈咪，你看姐姐。。我很讨厌她。。我不喜欢她抱我！” 唉。。。我就说“那。。好吧。。我们就把姐姐给卖了吧，就卖25仙吧！” 我这么地一说，妹妹立刻回应”不。。不。。我不要卖掉姐姐。。我只不过想要她乖乖而已。。”
孩子就是孩子，他们不像大人，思想思维是多么地简单单纯，有话直说，不勾心斗角。大人复查多了，思想思维复查，话中有话，勾心斗角，你争我夺，没完没了。
在这一次的小插曲，我看到的是孩子比我这个做妈妈的还要优秀！她们勇于表达爱意，勇于表达自己内心的思想和情感，敢爱敢恨。喜欢就是喜欢，不喜欢就是不喜欢，就是那么地简单。
我想学习我的女儿们那样，勇敢地表达自己，不再让别人牵着鼻子走，活得漂亮，活得自在，活得精彩！祝福我吧！

亲子分享区之为什么我们要读书？

我们和孩子第一个亲子分享尽然是“为什么我们要读书？” 在看到孩子一早就去上学，心想孩子了解到为什么我们要读书吗？灵机一动，就在我们的亲子分享区问一问吧！
这是我们连续几天的脑筋急转弯。。内容如图：

可见，妈妈是一位很长气的人，长篇大论。而爸爸比较果断，话不必多说，三言两语就行了。女儿嘛。。是大女儿写的。。有她自己的领悟力，自己的想法。。也有她那单纯的思维！
在这儿，好无自私地分享我们的点滴是希望你们也和孩子们一起脑筋急转，不分孩子有多年幼或有多年长，这是一个很好的课题。在孩子和父母的分享当中，能够更加了解彼此，也能解答孩子对于读书的迷思。我和丈夫在如图的解说纯粹是自己的想法和家庭观念，并非答案，只供参考。您和孩子可以有自己的解答。在此，希望孩子们能够快乐地学习，快乐地成长，能走更远的道路！记得，我和爸爸会一直陪伴着你们！

*此文的内容只供参考。须知每个小孩都来之不同的生活环境和家庭背景所以教导的方式也肯定因人而异。

小野花

“妈咪，我们回来了！这是送给你的！”原来是小花儿，五朵小野花！看着女儿晒红了小脸蛋，手上拿着小花儿，心中有一些说不出的感动!

这是小野花，很不起眼的小野花，经历过许多的风风雨雨然而还是生存着。虽然不值钱但是意义重大，虽然不起眼但是它是女儿第一次为我亲手摘下来的小野花。孩子这小小贴心举动真的让我甜在心头。我把小野花放好，摆在客厅的桌上。没想到，真的没想到。。第二天，小野花居然变了样！！孩子觉得小野花好厉害因为不用水，不用太阳，不用施肥都能变成另外一个样子。。哈哈哈哈。。我就是喜欢孩子那单纯的思想！

谢谢你们的小花朵。。妈咪希望你们也像小野花一样那么坚强。。有一天，你们也会变成一朵独特的花儿。。妈咪永远爱你们噢！

When You Have A Baby

When you have a baby, many things change.
You behave like a Big Baby, do silly things you never did before.
You make funny faces just to make little ones laughs.
You make even funnier faces or perhaps weirder faces just to make her laughs even happier.

You sing lullaby to her and she is your first audience.
Even with a hoarse voice, you still sing to her.
Trying hard to recall every childhood song that you had learnt, just to sing to her.
Then, you start to sing with silly movement, which make both of you laugh.

When the little ones make coo-coo sound, you follow her to coo.
You coo non-stop, silly enough to make her thought that it must be a "Magic word".
You smile by just looking into her eyes and you laugh when she smiles at you.
Every single little action she did, you give her an "over-reacted" big applause.

When you have a baby, this is how silly you could be.
Silly enough to make you and her happy without a reason.
Oh God, isn't it wonderful!
To have a little ones around!

人生观点

读了一遍文章，觉得很有意思。希望女儿能读到此遍。


（一）对你不好的人，你不要太介怀。在你一生中，没有人有义务要对你好，除了我和你妈妈。对你好的人，你一定要珍惜、感恩。
（二）没有人是不可代替的，没有东西是必须拥有的。看透了这一点，将来就算你失去了世间最爱的一切时，也应该明白，这并不是什么大不了的事。
（三）生命是短暂的，今天或许还在浪费着生命，明天就会发觉生命已远离你。因此，愈早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也会愈多。与其盼望长寿，倒不如早点享受。
（四）爱情只是一种感觉，而这感觉会随时间、心境而改变。如果你所谓的最爱离开你，请你耐心地等待一下，让时间慢慢冲洗，让心灵慢慢沉淀，你的苦就会慢慢淡化。不要过分憧憬爱情的美，不要过分夸大失恋的悲。
（五）虽然很多有成就的人没有受过太多的教育，但并不等于不用功读书，也可以成功。你学到的知识，就是你拥有的武器。人可以白手起家，但不可以手无寸铁，紧记！
（六）我不会要求你供养我下半辈子，同样的我也不会供养你的下半辈子。当你长大到可以独立的时候，我的责任已经完结。今后无论你坐巴士还是奔驰，吃鱼翅还是粉丝，都要自己负责。
（七）你可以要求自己守信，但无法要求别人也守信；你可以要求自己对他人好，但不能期待人家也对你好；你怎样待人，并不代表人家就会怎样待你，如果你看不透这一点，只会给你增添不必要的烦恼。
（八）我买了26年的六合彩，还是一穷二白，连三等奖也没有中过，这就证明人要发达，还是要努力工作才可以，世界上并没有免费的午餐。
（九）亲人只有一次的缘份，无论这辈子我和你会相处多久，你一定要珍惜共聚的时光，下辈子，无论我们爱与不爱，都不会再相见。

嫁妆

记得有一天在网上看到一条钻石项链，那是一条非常美丽的钥匙项链，第一件事就是想把它买下，准备送给以后21岁生日的女儿虽然女儿如今才6岁！！那条项链可是Tiffany and Co. 的产品，当然价格不菲！心想我有三名可爱的千金，那我应该买三条项链，一人一条才公平。但是，我可没有那么多钱呀！一条我都买不起啊！

这时突然想起妈妈在我出嫁前所说过的一番话“女儿，妈妈什么都给不了你而唯一能够给你的是教育，你最好，最华丽，最有价值的嫁妆便是这些年来我给予你的教育”。当时，年少的我只能铭记在心里。

从相识，结婚至今已有三名女儿，经历了不少的风风雨雨当然也有雨过天晴的日子，让我在生活上的不同阶段成长了许多，逐渐领悟妈妈那番话隐藏的含义。

想成为一位在事业上以及家庭中的佼佼者可不是一件简单的事。不管什么性别，在于知识，态度或身心上都必须达到一定的程度。知识，避免不了是成功的首要条件，而拥有好的态度以及好的身心是取得知识最基本的必备条件。所以，不管是在于规范教育，家庭教育或是身教都不能忽视。

教育，对我来说是世上最庞大，杀伤力最强的武器。教育，可说是无害又能说是有害的武器。对的教育，它能让这个世界变得更美好而错误的教育，它能把这个世界在一瞬间变成地狱。

对或错误的教育不是你或我的定义就是正确的。不同的父母，不同的孩子，不同的家庭背景就会产生不同的教育。错以对纯粹在于各人不同的观点，没有所谓的正确教育方针。

而我，想像父母那样，不只是教孩子读书写字，家庭教育便是时时刻刻，有意无意地进行着。恭敬，礼义廉耻是我们家中首要的家庭教育。我也想像父母那样，一点一滴，慢慢累计，直到一天把“教育”当成嫁妆送给女儿。我深信那会是最有意义，最有价值的嫁妆！

Sports Day 2013

Both Syuen and Ning was so looking forward for the Sports Day. Every day they will ask me when is the Sports Day. And every day, they will tell me how hard they had been practising in the school.

Week after week, day after day..finally, the Sports Day took place on the 29th of June 2013. Both girls woke up early that morning, feeling excited! Even I was feeling excited too! Ning Ning was a little bit down as she is only 4 years old and there was no category that she could take part. I told her that she could take part next year and this year we can be Syuen Syuen supporter. Although Ning Ning couldn't take part, I can see that she enjoyed herself on that day too, running here and there with the cousins.

As for Syuen Syuen, she is overjoyed to be the first winner. I saw her jumped so high after winning the run. She is really really happy!

After the Sports Day, I asked her how she felt. She told me that she is very happy because every time when they were training in the school, she only managed to get number three and this time, she got number one! I laughed and told her that it is always okay if we lose. There is always a winner and a loser, the outcome is never important, what matters is that we have tried our best and be participation. I'm indeed proud of her!

Rich or Poor

I came across this article when I was teaching the students. And I would like to share this very meaningful article here in my blog. This is how the story goes.

One day the father of a very wealthy family took his son to the village to show him how the poor lived. They spent a couple of days and nights in one of the poorest houses in the area.

On their return to the city, the father asked the son, "How was the trip, son?"

"It was great, Father."

"Did you see how the poor lived?" said the father.

"Yes, I did, Father," said the son.

"So, tell me what you learned from the trip?" said the father.

"I realized that we have one dog but they have four dogs. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of the garden but they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lanterns in our garden but they have millions of stars at night. Our patio reaches to the front garden but they have the whole horizon. We have a small piece of land to live on but they have fields that go beyond our sight. We have servants that serve us but they serve others. We buy our food but they grow theirs. We have walls to protect us but they have friends to protect them."

The boy's father was speechless.

"Thanks for showing me how poor we are, Father," added the son.

~The End~

有心一定行

大女儿刚满月就交给保姆看护。每天一早就载她到保姆家至到旁晚才接她回家。孩子都是在保姆家梳洗和用餐后才载回家所以，我和老公都不用担心她的衣食住行。当大女儿三岁半的时候，不知怎么了，她开始不吃饭。保姆也因为此事很烦恼便向我们投诉。当时，大女儿最爱喝牛奶和吃饼干类的食品。对我来说，饼干或面包都是没有营养的食物，再加上它含有防腐剂，会逐渐影响我们的健康！

我下定决心要给以孩子正确的饮食习惯，我便决定由自己来看护孩子！最让我觉得可惜的是孩子从此就少了许多玩乐的机会因为每天旁晚保姆都会带女儿到操场玩乐而今后，女儿必须在店待到旁晚才能回家。一回到家，我便忙着下厨，想煮一些营养的食物，好让大家感受家的温馨，所以并没有时间带孩子到操场玩乐。我们只好把操场玩乐时间保留在每逢周末进行。

每天旁晚在家下厨的日子已过了两年。这两年来真的是“有血有汗”。从学习煮饭开始一直到学会煮一些高难度的菜肴真的是经历了许多，包括切掉手指的一小块肉，流血不止 ，烫伤脸部等等。但是也就是为了让大家有一餐营养丰富的晚餐，我真的是下了不少的功夫啊！

最让我头痛的是改善大女儿的饮食习惯！有时，辛辛苦苦煮了一餐，她却不肯吃，就算我喂她，她也不肯开口！有时，逼她吃饭，看她一边含着饭一边哭，唉。。也很可怜。当时我心想，也许我煮的食物不舍和她的胃口也有可能我的厨艺的功夫还不到家吧！好，明天煮一些小孩都喜欢吃的食物。隔天，我煮了hotdog 和 nugget，这些都是小孩喜欢吃的！但是，我错了！我的大女儿竟然不喜欢吃！！！唉！！怎么办？！？！

我和老公商量了好久才决定利用这个办法。首先，了解女儿喜欢及讨厌的食物。接着，利用“试验及错误”的方法改善女儿的饮食习惯（把每一天煮的材料及下厨的方法记录下来，同时也记录女儿爱与不爱的标号）。最后，让女儿亲身体验下厨准备自己的食物的乐趣。以下是大女儿的饮食记录表。

大女儿今年5岁了，这两年来的努力没有白费！！大女儿从一天五口饭提升到半碗饭了！大女儿也不笨，她用计算法控制我对她的要求！唉，原来一山还有一山高！！

最让我开心的是，大女儿现在还会自愿试试一些新菜肴！肉类，海鲜类，蔬菜和水果，样样她都吃！不过，要注意的是烹调方式比如；大女儿吃煎鱼不吃蒸鱼，吃菜汤不吃炒菜等等。虽然如此，我还是会继续努力让她不挑食。

任何困难，只要有心克服再加上用心聆听及坚持到底，不管时间有多长，一定有所收获！我下一个目标，不只是大女儿，一向来爱吃肉食的小女儿也是时候该改善了！

备注：进食时，应限制在饭厅以免影响孩子的食欲及注意力。

Dare to Dream

I always wonder and of course, looking forward for this day when my kids finally graduate and having a good career. It might not be any profession or the best of all career but something that they LOVE to involve and something that they PASSION!

I asked them before what would they like to be when they grow up. Due to their tender age, this was how they answered me. SyuenSyuen answered "Mummy, I wanted to do something to deal with Mathematics." In my mind, I was thinking "Ahaa..she wanted to be an Accountant!" NingNing turned to answered "Mummy, I wanted to wear the white clothing, with a white helmet and fly to the moon." Oh my! She wanted to be an Astronaut! So, here they are, the Double "A"!

No matter what field they involved, my hubby and I will give them our full support. We believe and trust them that they can make it as long as they DARE TO DREAM! This is more important than anything else! To be success, the key is PERSISTANCE!

I'm the kinda parents who do research alot, from mental and physical development to education and to many many issues. Come to think that, perhaps I'm too "careful" in bringing them up. Am I paving a smooth pathway or perhaps too smooth?? I wouldn't want to pave a pathway for my children as they have the right to choose and to make decision. I would prefer to guide them, showing them the many pathways, the decision is still in their hands.

If one day, my children told me "Mum, I wanted to become an Artist." (which many many Asian parents' worst nightmare as they have this perception that their children couldn't make a living for being an artist because they don't earn much!) There are massive argument between career and earning issue. Well, just cut it simple. Life is simple and happiness is simple! My answer to my children is "Good! Go ahead, child and be the BEST!"

My Best Birthday Gift - They Had Grown Up

5th of August 2012, a day to remember! A day that my heart beating so fast that it almost stopped and with difficult breathing! Due to my carelessness, I lost my two girls!!


As hubby was queueing up to pay at the cashier, I decided to bring both gals to the bread shop. I wanted to buy some breads at the shop while the girls wanted to play the toy machine. Well, as the toy machine was just beside the bread shop, I decided to let them played there while I went in the shop for a few seconds. This is the WORST decision I ever made!! NEVER EVER left your children alone, not even for a few seconds, not even when they are within your sight!

One second they were still at my sight, the next second they were gone. I rushed out but couldn't find them! OMG! Bearing my tear, I quickly ran to my hubby who was paying at the cashier to see that the girls were there with their daddy! Thank God!

My first reaction was scolding SyuenSyuen. Oh great, another mistake that I made!!I shouldn't have scolded her, she must had been so scared at that time! I'm not a good mother, I was so regretted for what I had done.

After cooling down and refreshing my mind, I apologized to both my gals. "I'm sorry, SyuenSyuen and NingNing. I wouldn't repeat my mistake. Please trust me and believe me that I will keep you safe. Mummy always loves both of you."

SyuenSyuen, mummy is very proud of you as even though you are scared at that time but you are CALM and BRAVE. You didn't cry and you knew what you need to do. What I'm really proud of you is that you know how to TAKE CARE of your little sister. You didn't abandoned your younger sister but you held her hand and took her along with you.  

NingNing, you did GREAT too. You are being very COOPERATE, following your sister and being BRAVE too!

Both my gals had really grown up! Mummy is very PROUD of the both of you. This is the best birthday gift from the both of you! ALWAYS LOVING YOU BOTH! :)

Flip-Flop Book

This is our very first flip-flop book and we took around one month to finish it. Since SyuenSyuen wanted to know times before dinosaur and Ice Age, we decided to go through the prehistoric time line. I had hard time finding the information and sometimes, confused with the time line. And of course, summarizing the time line and simplifing the whole stuff had been a challenge to me. Yup, me too learning something from all the research. It took me a week to do the research.

Then, we spent a day to view the slideshow from National Geographic website, a wonderful slideshow http://science.nationalgeographic.com/science/prehistoric-world/prehistoric-time-line/ SyuenSyuen loves the story line that I tried my best to tell :)

Then, we spent another week on drawing and colouring all the pictures.

Another week spent with attaching parts of the flip-flop book and pasting all the pictures in it. Finally, our very long flip-flop book was done! It took us plenty of time but it really pays off.

I put the flip-flop book together with the other storybooks in our bookshelf, it will be one of our bedtime storybooks! :)

Sports Day 2012

This year is SyuenSyuen's very first Sports Day. Thank you hubby for taking the effort to spare some time off the work to join in the fun!

Parade was the very first program to start off. SyuenSyuen had been telling me about this "walking stuff" alot these days...saying that they had been practising to parade real hard these days, instruction to follow the big brother in front, with no looking here and there and no broken line alllowed.

Standing next to SyuenSyuen's kindergarten is Preschool of SJK(C) Kuala Kuang.

Then, we had speeches from the Headmistress and Chairman of SJK(C) Kuala Kuang followed by Chairman of Tadika Chin Lai (SyuenSyuen's kindergarten). Next, the primary school children performed some dances before the real competition began!

We didn't take any pictures of SyuenSyuen's competition as we scared that we might distracted her but we took a video clip of her from FAR...real far..hahahaha..

To our surprise, SyuenSyuen managed to get Number 3! Not that we do not trust her that she can do it, it is just that to us, she is our little clumsy girl with rough action. We are happy with her achievement and seem like she is very happy too! :)

 Ehhmmmm...my hubby was called out to present the awards to winners?!?!

Then, there were competition for parents or outsider to join! My hubby and my two sister-in-laws joined in the fun too! They joined in the Tug-Of-War! They had fun and of course, they won too!! :) Both contestants and spectators were excited over the game, with all the laughing and cheering!

 At the end of the day, we all went home happily! What a GREAT day!! So looking forward next year!!

SyuenSyuen's 5th Birthday

After much consideration, we decided to have a small celebration for our daughter together with all her cousins rather than with her friends. At first, I was thinking to throw a small birthday party at her kindergarten but afraid that it might be troublesome for the teachers and perhaps we will disturb their learning progress. Then, my hubby suggested that perhaps we could have a small party at home with just the 4 of us. In the end, we decided to celebrate it at eldest sister-in-law's house rather than our home. It is merrier and happier if she could celebrate her birthday with all her cousins. And yes, we made the right decision. A special thanks to eldest sister-in-law for preparing all the delicious foods!

This is her birthday cake, Tiramisu Cake from Secret Recipe.

Birthday song time, with both English and Mandarin version :)

Cake Cutting Time!

Everyone is happy!

Gift Opening at home, kinda late at night and both was sweating due to the playtime at sister-in-law's house.

SyuenSyuen is overjoyed to receive the gift from her cousins. And finally our gift for her, which she had been longing for, a Barbie Doll's Bedroom and Bathroom Set!

Face Off

Recently, I found that Syuen is behaving unruly. Sometimes, I just felt that why couldn't she asked properly rather than making up a fuss. When teacher started to tell me about her behaviour at school, I knew that I have to do something about it. I could tolerant if she is not doing well in homework but I simply couldn't tolerant is she is behaving bad!

So, I guess that I need to put some effort on it. Yesterday, I taught her about types of emotions; happy, sad, angry and scared. This is what we need; two toilet roll (a big and a small). Cut a 20 cents coin circle on the big toilet roll.

Then, wrap both with a piece of white paper (here, I used recycled paper).

After that, paste a round cardboard (I used a harder material so that it can last longer) under the smaller toilet roll.

Put the smaller toilet roll into the bigger toilet roll.

Now, we can draw the pictures, shown as below. Letting Syuen to observe the difference beween the eyes, the eyebrow and the mouth when in different mood. Then, a little bit of tricky when I'm deciding on the character. In the end, I chose to draw a little girl (representing Syuen), a man (representing Syuen's dad or any adults) and an astronaut (representing even the man in SPACE or any kinds of people).

After observing the look, the real lesson started. We turned the faces to happy look. Then, I told Syuen that we all wanted to be happy; we looked great when we are happy; everyones LOVE happy people.

Sometimes, we will feel sad too. Some of us will express it by crying; some of us feeling sad but still strong enough to witheld the tears; some of us chose to be strong even though feeling down. We need to control our emotions.

Everyone is scared of something. We should understand this feeling and try our best to overcome it.

And finally, we had our angry faces. When we angry, we look ulgy. When we angry, we have to angry at the RIGHT PERSON, RIGHT TIME, RIGHT PLACE and RIGHT DEGREE!

Leaving Her Nanny Soon

After much consideration, we decided to put Li Syuen under our own care.

December will be a month of trying out. First and foremost, we are worried that Li Syuen might wear out due to long hours of staying up. Secondly, we are still feeling uncomfortable as she had to cut down her outdoor activity due to our working schedule. Thirdly, we are worried that she might not adapt to the new "locked or restricted" environment.

Under the care of her nanny and nanny's husband, Li Syuen spent most of her evening time playing at the playground or farming. Li Syuen had been to all the playground available in Kuala Kuang. She knew the location of every playground better than I! Other than playing at the playground, she will do some farming stuff with her uncle. She will do some digging, shoveling, planting, watering and harvesting. An evening spent with great outdoor activities. It is really a pity to give up that very precious evening activity. I managed to take a photo or two of the small little farm that ran by Li Syuen and her uncle. Pardon me as I took the photos from my car :P

Somerimes, she helped her uncle to feed the chicken and washed away the chicken's shit.

Couldn't imagine that Li Syuen was taken care by them for almost 5 years now. Li Syuen was taken care by her nanny on her 2nd month of birth now that she is leaving her nanny soon, she and I feel kinda pity and sad.

Li Ning was also under the care of the same nanny since her 2nd month of birth. Now, it is Li Ning's turn to replace Li Syuen, going to all the playground and do the farming stuff. Hope both of them enjoy every moment no matter wherever and whenever they are.

A Late Coming Prize

18 November 2011, I attended the Graduation Ceremony of SJK(C) Kuala Kuang,together with the Kuala Kuang Pre-school and Li Syuen's kindergarten. Some of the parents felt puzzled that why I attended the ceremony as Li Syuen is only 4 years old. I guess that I attended the ceremony because I had something in my mind that I needed to do. First, of course is for congratulating and farewelling my Primary 6 and K2 students. Secondly, is for accompany Li Syuen.

This year Li Syuen got number 4 in her class, we as her parents are so proud of her but we handled it with low profile. As her friends who managed to get top 3 in her class going up the stage to get their prizes, I noticed that Li Syuen looked sad. I kept quiet and see how will she response. Then, she asked me "Mummy, why I didn't get any prize?" I told her that because they worked harder than you. To my surprise, she told me "Mummy, I worked hard too!" At that time, I'm really at the lost of word. But, in my mind I knew that she had to OVERCOME this DISAPPOINTMENT all by herself. Too much word of comforting will make thing worse so, I gave her words of ENCOURAGEMENT! After a few minutes of inspiring her, she is fine and being happy again. I think that we should all work SMART but not work HARD but most important of all is ENJOYING the PROCESS and forget all about the OUTCOME. I hope that one day, Li Syuen and Li Ning understand this.

This is indeed a very good opportunity for Li Syuen to learn to stand back on her own feet and to overcome disappointment. I had always feeling uneasy with the school issue, especially when it comes to "awarding" someone. In my mind, we study to gain knowledge not to get award. And we deeply hope that Li Syuen understand this. That's why I always handle with great care when it comes to school issue.

On the last day of school, as I was busy on that day, my hubby picked her up from school. She is extremely happy and her father wandered why. When they reached office, she told her dad that "Daddy, I had something to show you..I get first prize in the computer contest!" Her dad was overjoyed. Of course, me too! All we said to her is "Well Done" and we spent the day together AS USUAL. We didn't make a fuss about it because we do not what her to feel proud. And of course, we do not want her to be so obsess with the award.

I can see that she is in love with her trophy. She was busy the whole day with the trophy. She cleaned it, she wiped it, she swung it, she hugged it, she carried it wherever she went!! Thank God for this LATE COMING PRIZE cause she is definitely learning something from there!