把姐姐给卖了吧！

姐姐总爱抱着妹妹睡觉但是妹妹却不喜欢，她喜欢自在地睡觉。姐姐想通过抱抱来表达爱意，妹妹不领情还很生气地向我投诉“妈咪，你看姐姐。。我很讨厌她。。我不喜欢她抱我！” 唉。。。我就说“那。。好吧。。我们就把姐姐给卖了吧，就卖25仙吧！” 我这么地一说，妹妹立刻回应”不。。不。。我不要卖掉姐姐。。我只不过想要她乖乖而已。。”
孩子就是孩子，他们不像大人，思想思维是多么地简单单纯，有话直说，不勾心斗角。大人复查多了，思想思维复查，话中有话，勾心斗角，你争我夺，没完没了。
在这一次的小插曲，我看到的是孩子比我这个做妈妈的还要优秀！她们勇于表达爱意，勇于表达自己内心的思想和情感，敢爱敢恨。喜欢就是喜欢，不喜欢就是不喜欢，就是那么地简单。
我想学习我的女儿们那样，勇敢地表达自己，不再让别人牵着鼻子走，活得漂亮，活得自在，活得精彩！祝福我吧！

亲子分享区之为什么我们要读书？

我们和孩子第一个亲子分享尽然是“为什么我们要读书？” 在看到孩子一早就去上学，心想孩子了解到为什么我们要读书吗？灵机一动，就在我们的亲子分享区问一问吧！
这是我们连续几天的脑筋急转弯。。内容如图：

可见，妈妈是一位很长气的人，长篇大论。而爸爸比较果断，话不必多说，三言两语就行了。女儿嘛。。是大女儿写的。。有她自己的领悟力，自己的想法。。也有她那单纯的思维！
在这儿，好无自私地分享我们的点滴是希望你们也和孩子们一起脑筋急转，不分孩子有多年幼或有多年长，这是一个很好的课题。在孩子和父母的分享当中，能够更加了解彼此，也能解答孩子对于读书的迷思。我和丈夫在如图的解说纯粹是自己的想法和家庭观念，并非答案，只供参考。您和孩子可以有自己的解答。在此，希望孩子们能够快乐地学习，快乐地成长，能走更远的道路！记得，我和爸爸会一直陪伴着你们！

*此文的内容只供参考。须知每个小孩都来之不同的生活环境和家庭背景所以教导的方式也肯定因人而异。

小野花

“妈咪，我们回来了！这是送给你的！”原来是小花儿，五朵小野花！看着女儿晒红了小脸蛋，手上拿着小花儿，心中有一些说不出的感动!

这是小野花，很不起眼的小野花，经历过许多的风风雨雨然而还是生存着。虽然不值钱但是意义重大，虽然不起眼但是它是女儿第一次为我亲手摘下来的小野花。孩子这小小贴心举动真的让我甜在心头。我把小野花放好，摆在客厅的桌上。没想到，真的没想到。。第二天，小野花居然变了样！！孩子觉得小野花好厉害因为不用水，不用太阳，不用施肥都能变成另外一个样子。。哈哈哈哈。。我就是喜欢孩子那单纯的思想！

谢谢你们的小花朵。。妈咪希望你们也像小野花一样那么坚强。。有一天，你们也会变成一朵独特的花儿。。妈咪永远爱你们噢！

When You Have A Baby

When you have a baby, many things change.
You behave like a Big Baby, do silly things you never did before.
You make funny faces just to make little ones laughs.
You make even funnier faces or perhaps weirder faces just to make her laughs even happier.

You sing lullaby to her and she is your first audience.
Even with a hoarse voice, you still sing to her.
Trying hard to recall every childhood song that you had learnt, just to sing to her.
Then, you start to sing with silly movement, which make both of you laugh.

When the little ones make coo-coo sound, you follow her to coo.
You coo non-stop, silly enough to make her thought that it must be a "Magic word".
You smile by just looking into her eyes and you laugh when she smiles at you.
Every single little action she did, you give her an "over-reacted" big applause.

When you have a baby, this is how silly you could be.
Silly enough to make you and her happy without a reason.
Oh God, isn't it wonderful!
To have a little ones around!

人生观点

读了一遍文章，觉得很有意思。希望女儿能读到此遍。


（一）对你不好的人，你不要太介怀。在你一生中，没有人有义务要对你好，除了我和你妈妈。对你好的人，你一定要珍惜、感恩。
（二）没有人是不可代替的，没有东西是必须拥有的。看透了这一点，将来就算你失去了世间最爱的一切时，也应该明白，这并不是什么大不了的事。
（三）生命是短暂的，今天或许还在浪费着生命，明天就会发觉生命已远离你。因此，愈早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也会愈多。与其盼望长寿，倒不如早点享受。
（四）爱情只是一种感觉，而这感觉会随时间、心境而改变。如果你所谓的最爱离开你，请你耐心地等待一下，让时间慢慢冲洗，让心灵慢慢沉淀，你的苦就会慢慢淡化。不要过分憧憬爱情的美，不要过分夸大失恋的悲。
（五）虽然很多有成就的人没有受过太多的教育，但并不等于不用功读书，也可以成功。你学到的知识，就是你拥有的武器。人可以白手起家，但不可以手无寸铁，紧记！
（六）我不会要求你供养我下半辈子，同样的我也不会供养你的下半辈子。当你长大到可以独立的时候，我的责任已经完结。今后无论你坐巴士还是奔驰，吃鱼翅还是粉丝，都要自己负责。
（七）你可以要求自己守信，但无法要求别人也守信；你可以要求自己对他人好，但不能期待人家也对你好；你怎样待人，并不代表人家就会怎样待你，如果你看不透这一点，只会给你增添不必要的烦恼。
（八）我买了26年的六合彩，还是一穷二白，连三等奖也没有中过，这就证明人要发达，还是要努力工作才可以，世界上并没有免费的午餐。
（九）亲人只有一次的缘份，无论这辈子我和你会相处多久，你一定要珍惜共聚的时光，下辈子，无论我们爱与不爱，都不会再相见。

嫁妆

记得有一天在网上看到一条钻石项链，那是一条非常美丽的钥匙项链，第一件事就是想把它买下，准备送给以后21岁生日的女儿虽然女儿如今才6岁！！那条项链可是Tiffany and Co. 的产品，当然价格不菲！心想我有三名可爱的千金，那我应该买三条项链，一人一条才公平。但是，我可没有那么多钱呀！一条我都买不起啊！

这时突然想起妈妈在我出嫁前所说过的一番话“女儿，妈妈什么都给不了你而唯一能够给你的是教育，你最好，最华丽，最有价值的嫁妆便是这些年来我给予你的教育”。当时，年少的我只能铭记在心里。

从相识，结婚至今已有三名女儿，经历了不少的风风雨雨当然也有雨过天晴的日子，让我在生活上的不同阶段成长了许多，逐渐领悟妈妈那番话隐藏的含义。

想成为一位在事业上以及家庭中的佼佼者可不是一件简单的事。不管什么性别，在于知识，态度或身心上都必须达到一定的程度。知识，避免不了是成功的首要条件，而拥有好的态度以及好的身心是取得知识最基本的必备条件。所以，不管是在于规范教育，家庭教育或是身教都不能忽视。

教育，对我来说是世上最庞大，杀伤力最强的武器。教育，可说是无害又能说是有害的武器。对的教育，它能让这个世界变得更美好而错误的教育，它能把这个世界在一瞬间变成地狱。

对或错误的教育不是你或我的定义就是正确的。不同的父母，不同的孩子，不同的家庭背景就会产生不同的教育。错以对纯粹在于各人不同的观点，没有所谓的正确教育方针。

而我，想像父母那样，不只是教孩子读书写字，家庭教育便是时时刻刻，有意无意地进行着。恭敬，礼义廉耻是我们家中首要的家庭教育。我也想像父母那样，一点一滴，慢慢累计，直到一天把“教育”当成嫁妆送给女儿。我深信那会是最有意义，最有价值的嫁妆！

Rich or Poor

I came across this article when I was teaching the students. And I would like to share this very meaningful article here in my blog. This is how the story goes.

One day the father of a very wealthy family took his son to the village to show him how the poor lived. They spent a couple of days and nights in one of the poorest houses in the area.

On their return to the city, the father asked the son, "How was the trip, son?"

"It was great, Father."

"Did you see how the poor lived?" said the father.

"Yes, I did, Father," said the son.

"So, tell me what you learned from the trip?" said the father.

"I realized that we have one dog but they have four dogs. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of the garden but they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lanterns in our garden but they have millions of stars at night. Our patio reaches to the front garden but they have the whole horizon. We have a small piece of land to live on but they have fields that go beyond our sight. We have servants that serve us but they serve others. We buy our food but they grow theirs. We have walls to protect us but they have friends to protect them."

The boy's father was speechless.

"Thanks for showing me how poor we are, Father," added the son.

~The End~

Speech Therapy

Since NingNing had been facing problems with the pronunciation with certain words, we decided to take her to the specialist to have a proper check-up. First, we went to the Emergency Department as we are not too sure who should we refer to, to the ENT Department or the Paediatrics. Then, NingNing was transferred to the Paediatrics to do some speech evaluation.

We are glad that there were nothing wrong with her hearing and tongue. After checking the ear and tongue, she was asked to read alphabet A to Z, sounds okay. And then, she was asked to sing! Then, the paediatrician asked me some history about her. I explained that she started to talk (single, double wording) when she was about 10 months old and complete sentence when she was about 1 and 1/2 year old so, there was no sign of her to be a slow learner or speech disorder.

Then, there was a little conversation between the paediatrician and her to test her understanding of certain question. A simple test on her speech in different language turned up to be fine. In the end, she was diagnosed of slurred speech with certain words.

I heard of the slurred speech years ago and understood the meaning of it. It was nothing serious but what we are afraid of is that she might get so used to the slurred speech that it become her habit one day. I requested the paediatrician to write us a letter so that we can went straight to the speech therapy, which was only available at the General Hospital Ipoh. The paediatrician refused as he thinks that all NingNing needs now is practising the certain pronunciation at home. After much discussion with the paediatrician, we came to a conclusion that we will teach NingNing to practise her speech at home everyday and if there is no improvement after 6 months then only we bring her to the speech therapy.

Back at home, I called my mum and hubby to discuss this matter with them and like what I'm thinking, they also think that 6 months is way too long. In the end, we decided to give ourselves 3 months of deadline. If there is no improvement, we will personally bring NingNing to the GH with or without the letter from the paediatrician.

As for now, I'm doing some research on the speech therapy, hopefully I can find some helpful information. And of course, hope for the best.

Dare to Dream

I always wonder and of course, looking forward for this day when my kids finally graduate and having a good career. It might not be any profession or the best of all career but something that they LOVE to involve and something that they PASSION!

I asked them before what would they like to be when they grow up. Due to their tender age, this was how they answered me. SyuenSyuen answered "Mummy, I wanted to do something to deal with Mathematics." In my mind, I was thinking "Ahaa..she wanted to be an Accountant!" NingNing turned to answered "Mummy, I wanted to wear the white clothing, with a white helmet and fly to the moon." Oh my! She wanted to be an Astronaut! So, here they are, the Double "A"!

No matter what field they involved, my hubby and I will give them our full support. We believe and trust them that they can make it as long as they DARE TO DREAM! This is more important than anything else! To be success, the key is PERSISTANCE!

I'm the kinda parents who do research alot, from mental and physical development to education and to many many issues. Come to think that, perhaps I'm too "careful" in bringing them up. Am I paving a smooth pathway or perhaps too smooth?? I wouldn't want to pave a pathway for my children as they have the right to choose and to make decision. I would prefer to guide them, showing them the many pathways, the decision is still in their hands.

If one day, my children told me "Mum, I wanted to become an Artist." (which many many Asian parents' worst nightmare as they have this perception that their children couldn't make a living for being an artist because they don't earn much!) There are massive argument between career and earning issue. Well, just cut it simple. Life is simple and happiness is simple! My answer to my children is "Good! Go ahead, child and be the BEST!"

My Best Birthday Gift - They Had Grown Up

5th of August 2012, a day to remember! A day that my heart beating so fast that it almost stopped and with difficult breathing! Due to my carelessness, I lost my two girls!!


As hubby was queueing up to pay at the cashier, I decided to bring both gals to the bread shop. I wanted to buy some breads at the shop while the girls wanted to play the toy machine. Well, as the toy machine was just beside the bread shop, I decided to let them played there while I went in the shop for a few seconds. This is the WORST decision I ever made!! NEVER EVER left your children alone, not even for a few seconds, not even when they are within your sight!

One second they were still at my sight, the next second they were gone. I rushed out but couldn't find them! OMG! Bearing my tear, I quickly ran to my hubby who was paying at the cashier to see that the girls were there with their daddy! Thank God!

My first reaction was scolding SyuenSyuen. Oh great, another mistake that I made!!I shouldn't have scolded her, she must had been so scared at that time! I'm not a good mother, I was so regretted for what I had done.

After cooling down and refreshing my mind, I apologized to both my gals. "I'm sorry, SyuenSyuen and NingNing. I wouldn't repeat my mistake. Please trust me and believe me that I will keep you safe. Mummy always loves both of you."

SyuenSyuen, mummy is very proud of you as even though you are scared at that time but you are CALM and BRAVE. You didn't cry and you knew what you need to do. What I'm really proud of you is that you know how to TAKE CARE of your little sister. You didn't abandoned your younger sister but you held her hand and took her along with you.  

NingNing, you did GREAT too. You are being very COOPERATE, following your sister and being BRAVE too!

Both my gals had really grown up! Mummy is very PROUD of the both of you. This is the best birthday gift from the both of you! ALWAYS LOVING YOU BOTH! :)

Dinosaur Live!

As it is school holidays and since our two girls love dinosaur so much, we decided to make a trip to the Dinosaur Live at Pusat Sains Negara, Kuala Lumpur. To make our trip memorable, we purposely chose to go there on NingNing's 3rd birthday!!

We had a two-days one-night trip. As we just needed a room to sleep so, this time we decided to stay in a budget hotel, Juliet Hotel costed RM98! The hotel was okay, at least it is clean! We had our dinner with a couple of friends and of course, the foods were delicious.

We woke up early the next day and we had very delicious nasi lemak! Missing the sambal already!!! Hopefully to go there again for the nasi lemak though it was a bit expensive, RM6.50 per plate! After the breakfast, we went to Pusat Sains Negara at around 9 a.m..and yes, we were the early birds, there were plenty of parking lots. But, by 11 a.m. the parking lots were full, with both side of the road fully parked by big and small cars!

We bought the family package, with two adults and two children aged between 3-6 costed RM42. It's really worthwhile, we spent about six hours there! I love the coral section, it's BEAUTIFUL! NingNing loves the aquarium section, with big fishes. Before heading to the dinasour, there were many sections for us to do experiment. It was fun! The sad part was seeing some children who doesn't know how to cherish public facility. Well, it was a perfect time to show my girls that we should take care of public facility. Here are some snapshot of it.

I think that my hubby loves the IT section the most! Seeing those old IT stuff amazed me too! Hehehehe...especially the BIG MOUSE!!

My favourite section is the music section, especially these stepping music with lights!

Then, we headed to the Dinosaur Live! In facts, I was mentally prepared as I knew that some children in there might cry and of course, this made NingNing felt scared and cry too! SyuenSyuen enjoyed looking at the dinosaur, seeing them moving with very real complexion and movement! Oh yeah, I remember vividly those eyelids that moving up and down, with the eye-ball looking so real! Amazing!! Well, this exhibition will be held until 31st of July 2012. For those who haven't visit, it's really worthwhile! Here's a few snapshot of it.

Then, we headed to the playground. We spent around 45 minutes there.

After that, we went to do some craft works. And of course, the theme is dinosaur.

The outdoor section is the Biodiversity Area and the insect area. Butterflies were everywhere. The girls were excited to see all the butterflies flying around them. Great experience for them!

We spent about 6 hours at Pusat SainsNegara before we headed home and had a little birthday celebration for NingNing at McD. It's was indeed a great day!

Role Play as a Doctor

These past few weeks, Li Ning is always down with mild flu. We took her to the doctor twice but there is no sign of getting better. I think that perhaps she had inherited from both her faher and mother. She was once hospitalized when she was just one year old due to airway inflammation. Since then, she often gets mild flu. Visit to doctor seems nothing new to her.

Maybe because of it, she loves to role play as a doctor. I focused on her and I found that her sequence of action is the same as the doctor. She will ask her patient's condition (her elephant) then, she will take the stetescope to listen.

After that, she will measure the blood pressure, give injection and medicine.

We, as her parents had nothing to ask from her except for her health. We are taking more precaution so that her condition could get better. We changed our bedsheet regularly, basked the mattress and soft-toys under the hot sun once a week, cleaning our home; both indoor and outdoor to almost 99% dust-free. Hopefully, all our efforts worthwhile.

妈咪最喜欢你笑！

妈咪最喜欢你这张照片。你的笑容是多么地迷人。每当看到这张照片，你那哈哈大笑的笑声呈现在脑海里，不知不觉妈咪的内心也在偷偷地笑，嘴角也不知不觉地往上扬。希望你永远都是那么地快乐！