The 'Q's

There are so many 'Q's in this world. Often, parents stressed their children on IQ (Intelligence Quotient). IQ is a score derived from one of several different standardized tests designed to assess intelligence. It is known that IQ is important as it is the basic to success. Parents exposed their children and newborns to IQ lessons, even their unborn ones. Therefore, prenatal education become popular these days. Can you imagine that children started to learn when they are just as big as a pea?

Then, out of no way, came the EQ (Emotional Quotient). EQ is an ability, skill or a self-perceived ability to identify, assess and control the emotion of oneself or others. New research found that success = 20% IQ + 80% EQ. Parents become aware of EQ and started to send their children to EQ camp. I was a facilitator for an EQ camp for a few years. I met all kind of children and parents. Okay, I'll leave out the story here.

CQ (Creative Quotient) needless to say is all about creativity. Creativity plays an important part in our life. Being creative helps us to solve multiple problems in any situation.

So, in my mindset, IQ, EQ and CQ are important in educating myself and my children. I started to research on there 'Q's. To my surprise, there are so much more 'Q', there are SQ (Spiritual Quotient), HQ (Health Quotient), FQ (Financial Quotient) and so much more. But, I guess if I would have to catogerize them, it will still in the end goes back to the 3 main 'Q' (IQ, EQ, CQ).

At the beginning of the year 2011, I came across AQ (Adversity Quotient). With God's will, I'm lucky to attend a talk on AQ a few months ago. AQ is the most scientifically robust and widely used method in the world for measuring and strengthening human resilience. So, imagine that your children have IQ, EQ and CQ, meaning that he/she is successful but without the AQ, he/she won't be surviving. This means that AQ is as important as the 3 other 'Q's as AQ is all about how a person gets back on his/her feet after a setback or failure. Don't tell me that your children face no setback or failure before he/she successed.

In conclusion, these main 4 'Q's link. But, remember every children is different. They learn in their own pace. Most important is their interest. Children learn best through games.

Here, I would like to include a picture, can you think of which 'Q' we use to achieve this?? The answer is easy, right? :)

写给老公的一封信

老公，11年了！一路走来真的不简单。

人说dating的日子是甜蜜的，但上帝偏偏想要考验我们。我敢说我们dating的日子是苦的。一人打三分工，面包数一数还能够吃几天，没有逛街，没有看电影，没有庆生，没有礼物，省吃俭用就是为了生活。没有人看到，也没有人知道。彼此只能心痛着对方。

苦的日子真的不好过，我永远都不会忘记那些日子，不会记得“谁”或“为什么”，只记得我们如何牵着对方的手往前走。那个温柔温暖的手，如今还是一样！

也许上帝特地安排我们要经历这一切才能成为夫妻吧！苦的日子不但磨练了我们自己也考验了我们的感情。我们成长了许多，感情也加深了许多。

结婚后，再也看不到苦的日子。幸福和快乐的日子终于来临。我们把所有的精神都放在事业及家庭。辛苦建立属于我们自己的事业，我们自己的家，终于在这几年来有好的成绩，生活也丰富了许多。最值得感恩的是上帝送给我们最珍贵的礼物，送给我们两名可爱又贴心的女儿。我们的一点一滴，不管是苦或甜都是那么的刻骨铭心。

和你一起走的路不管是什么滋味，重要的是能和你一起走。我一直很羡慕老夫老妻。我一直希望。。。我们老了那一天，我们还能够牵着彼此的手，慢慢地在公园里散步！谢谢你，老公。。。你从来没有想过要放弃我们这一段感情。。。谢谢你，对我的照顾及关怀。。。谢谢你，一直那么地包容我。

永远爱你的老婆上。

If I can Choose Again

If I can choose again, I think I will choose to be a housewife. Now that I have a very stable career, not to say success but I'm contented with my work performance, I would like to try something else. I guess human being is like that. When you have something in your hand, you won't cherish it. When you see something which is not in your hand, you want it so much. I think perhaps I already achieved my goal in work now, I wanted something that I haven't achieved. If I have become a housewife, will I ask to become a businesswoman again?? This is so hard. Wouldn't it nice if I can be both. But, deep down in my heart I know that I can only choose one and be the best in it.

A Bad Day!

Sometimes, I do really confused with how we should deal with people relation. If you are soft to someone, he/she will "climb" over you. But then, if you are hard to someone, people will say that you are proud. It is so hard to really deal with people relation.

I will never forget how I deal with a barbarian yesterday. One thing that I felt that I had done wrong is the watery eyes! I shouldn't have those eyes. Those watery eyes make people think that they have won. But, they are wrong! I know that I will have watery eyes when I'm too frustrated. I think this is my only short-coming.

Everyone has his/her own short-coming. But, I think mine causes me lots of problems, especially how people think of me. I do not care in facts on how people think of me. Me, a loser or whatsoever is no longer important! I know myself well. I know I'm someone good! Most important is that I never harm anyone! Isn't it good enough??

I think I should get down with some books on this topic ^^

My Mother

My mother is someone that I felt I would never give enough to. I felt that I owe her alot in every aspect!

To start with, she is a very good mother. I love her so much. She is a very noble mother. We are from poor family. But, my mother no matter how hard and how tired she worked, she tried her best to give us the best education. I still remember the days when she worked in Singapore. In order to earn more, she worked night shift in the Seagate factory, Singapore. Not matter how tired she is, she still cooked for us 3 meals a day. In her mind, she thinks that it is healthier and we can save more money if we eat at home. Then, she would take her afternoon "sleep" before she went to work at night! I still remember that her bus would pick her up at 6p.m. from our house every day. Those money is my mum's hard-earned money. She even signed us up in talent classes like drawing, piano class and so on.

Not only she is very anxious with our education, she is also very anxious about our health and morality. When she had some times, she would tell us and teach us how to become a better person. She told us what is the right thing to do. The lesson she taught us is endless. She taught us whatever she knew, if she doesn't know, she searched in books and taught us!

I really thank her for what she had done for us. If not her, I wouldn't have all the talent. If not her, there will be no me today. I'm so grateful to God for giving us a chance to be mother-and-daughter. I hope to be your daughter again in next life, Mum! I LOVE YOU, MUM!

A Story That Changed Me!

Some days ago, I came across a true story linked by my friend in Facebook. It is written by a mother for her newborn baby girl. The baby girl was diagnosed cancer once she was born. The article is all about what the mother thinks and what she wanted so much to tell her baby girl. All the wording is so touching. In the end, the baby girl died in her mother's arm, which is her last wish (carried by her mother for the very last time). She was 7 months and 3 days old.

I cried when I read the article. I really cried so bad. After reading the article, I had this very strong feeling of seeing my children so bad. Perhaps, I am so scared of losing them. It did somehow change the way I used to think. Yes, it did!

I used to think of giving my children the best especially the best education. Even when they are still in my womb, I already started teaching them. After they were born, I continued educating them in every way. Oh God! I was so so wrong! HEALTHY is the key!

Really! I don't want my children to be genius. I want them to be healthy and happy!

I used to force myself, no matter how tired or how frustrated, I still went on the plan. But now, it is the another way round. Plans still go on but with a more open-heart. I teach them with more patience and love. They love it and eventually, they did learn something which I never expected.

Thank you God for letting me the chance to read the article! If it is not because of the article, I woudn't have changed. I learn how to love my children more, with a more sensible way. And I'm glad that I have the strong will to change.

New Outline

Today, I finally come out with a new outline. With much discussion with my hubby, we have decided the new outline in term of handling the workload and our two beloved princesses.

I'm glad too that I finally have my reading time back. Workload, household chores and taking care of my babies are definitely making me real tired sometimes. But, seeing them growing healthy and happy every day makes me feel that it is afterall worthwhile.

After sending Li Syuen to school and Li Ning to nanny's house, I will begin my day with some reading from the newspaper. Then, I will do some browsing and some research. After picking Li Syuen from school, I will send her to her nanny's house. I will then spend a little of quality time with both of them there. Then, I will have my lunch and continue to work. Everything freeze when I have my classes from 2 to 6. Hopefully, with God being kind to me, I will have some time to prepare dinner for my loved one. I will teach Li Syuen to do her homework and have some play time with Li Ning. We will have some bedtime stories before they have their sleep. I will do my own reading too. After they have fallen asleep, I will then start doing my housework and have a nice chat with Oscar.

This is what basically our new outline. I hope that we can work this out together.