New Outline

Today, I finally come out with a new outline. With much discussion with my hubby, we have decided the new outline in term of handling the workload and our two beloved princesses.

I'm glad too that I finally have my reading time back. Workload, household chores and taking care of my babies are definitely making me real tired sometimes. But, seeing them growing healthy and happy every day makes me feel that it is afterall worthwhile.

After sending Li Syuen to school and Li Ning to nanny's house, I will begin my day with some reading from the newspaper. Then, I will do some browsing and some research. After picking Li Syuen from school, I will send her to her nanny's house. I will then spend a little of quality time with both of them there. Then, I will have my lunch and continue to work. Everything freeze when I have my classes from 2 to 6. Hopefully, with God being kind to me, I will have some time to prepare dinner for my loved one. I will teach Li Syuen to do her homework and have some play time with Li Ning. We will have some bedtime stories before they have their sleep. I will do my own reading too. After they have fallen asleep, I will then start doing my housework and have a nice chat with Oscar.

This is what basically our new outline. I hope that we can work this out together.

Overwhelm with Work!

As Oscar's business is expanding real fast, we are a little overwhelm with the workload. Things seem out of hand. The workload is unbearable. We are working for more than 10 hours per day.

We used to have the principle of working from 9 to 5. And the rest of the time, we will take care and educate our children. But things got complicated. Time spending with our children is getting less. This is really makes me worried!

I have lesser time to do the teaching material and browsing the web for ideas. I even sacrified my favourite past time. I really need to get back to my reading. I miss that for weeks already. Please give me the strength to hold on and to move on.

I really have to sit down, clear my mind, do some brain storming, discuss and come up with a clear outline of our life. I wouldn't want both the business and my children's activity enrichment to slow down. Hope that my next blog is about the NEW outline.

My Way of Teaching

Watching them growing up each every day, I felt that God is really being kind to me. I pray hard to God to have them healthy and happy every day.

I do think that education is very important to them. I teach them when they are still very young. Can you believe that I taught them when they were still in my womb? This might sound ridiculous to some people. But, those who understand this, they knew that I'm doing the right thing. I won't say much about this here.

I do try my best to teach my children from A to Z. I think every parents do the same but with a different way, attitude and demand. For me, I would try many ways to make my children understand what I taught them with a slower pace. I wouldn't shout at them or really MAKE SURE they really understand me. Perhaps, my main aim is letting them LEARNING IN A HAPPY WAY.

I do not demand or ask much on how many or how well they understand what I have taught them. They will learn it IF NOT TODAY, TOMORROW. I think every parents should have this kinda attitude when teaching their children. The lesson will be STRESSED-FREE! It's good for both the children and the parents. At least, it won't hurt the relationship between the parents and the children.

Children learn more and learn well in a stressed-free class. They dare to ask, they dare to tell and most important of all, they are being true to you. They won't lie. I think that it is much more important than being a genius. A good attitude children will eventually do well in their education.

A New Me

It has been 7 months or so since my last post. I have been busy with my 2 princesses. SyuenSyuen started her school life this January and I can see that she is enjoying her school life. As for NingNing, she has begun to crawl and stand. Since then, I have been busy taking care of them and at the same time, busy with my own work. Yup, what a hectic life to start off the year 2010.

For the last few days, I haven't sleep well, same goes to my husband. It is all because of NingNing. She had high fever for the past 3 days. We are so worried about her. But, thank God she is fine now.

One thing that I notice myself is that my temper really improves alot. I'm used to be a very bad-temper person. I'm a very fast paced person. Once I have something to do, I will get it done within the next few minutes. I do not like to wait. I like to get things done in no time at all without any help from others. Things got worse if I didn't have enough sleep. Something happened to me..MIRACLE, I guess.

SyuenSyuen and NingNing do influence me a lot. To be their mother, I felt blessed. I'm happy and contented that I have them and my husband too. They inspired me to be patient, patient and patient...

I think I change for the best! Even without enough sleep, my temper is still cool. My mood does swing sometimes but all I need is TIME. Time to sort things out, time to cool down, time to rethink and replan. I'm glad that my EQ is improving. I believe that this is the real me! Thank you God for giving me the chance of reborn..I will cherish it, I will cherish myself, I will cherish my family, I will cherish the time..Thank you!

2nd Princess

It has been a few months since my last post. I had delievered to my second princess on the 3rd of June 2009. I'm thankful to God that I had her delievered safe and sound. And I'm glad that this time round I didn't suffer in great pain! It's just took 5 to 10 minutes to deliever her and with 2 times of contraction. Hopefully, with the 3rd or more to come will be like this.

With the 3rd?? Yup, my hubby wants 3 to 4 children. To me, if I have 2, it is more than enough cause there are lots of issue that I have been thinking of. And of course, the most important issue will be the financial and time.

Well, financial is important in terms of giving her the comfort and safe environment. It is also important in terms of educating her and exposing her to all kinds of talent. I wouldn't want my child to be a genius but at least, I have done my part of responsible in giving and exposing her to certain types of development.

And for sure, I'm worried too about the time that I have to spend with them. I'm a working mother and I only spend a few hours with them in a day. With 2 children now, my hubby and I really work hard and think hard on how to take care of them, how to educate them, what should we do to make them feel love and so on. After the birth of our second daughter, we found that our elder daughter is kinda jealous and she is not getting used to the new environment as we have a new member in our family. We tried lots of method to make her feel comfortable with the new environment. In the end, we have decided to send our youngest daughter to nanny for full day and the elder daughter goes for half day. This is to allow us to spend quality time just with our elder daughter. I spend time with her in the morning and it is my hubby's turn during the night time. As for my youngest daughter, I really spending quality with her during the night time even during wee hours when feeding her. Luckily, my elder daughter do understand this and she won't disturb me when I was with her sister.

Things are getting better after a month. SyuenSyuen started to adapt the new style of life and she can accept our new family member. She starts to carry her meimei around with my help, kissing her whenever she feels wanted to and now, she is a good helper to me in taking care of her meimei. She knows how to comfort her when she is crying, she knows how to wipe her meimei's mouth, she knows how to swing her meimei in the sarong and so on. It is always so so sweet to see her taking care of her meimei and her meimei will smile at her. I like that feeling and hopefully this kind of feeling is getting stronger and stronger.

Patience is the key.

Teaching other people's children is tough, teaching your own children is even tougher. I tried many ways teaching my daughter from speaking to reading, recognizing, morality, attitude and so on. First of all, I teach my daughter to talk but it is hard for my daughter to learn. My daughter is better in listening rather than speaking. She understands what we told her. She can follow instruction very well.

Mood is quite a factor in teaching toddler to talk. If she is in the good mood, she can speak very well, with the right sentence structure and grammar. If she is in a not-so-good mood, she will just say "no..no..no..".

These days I have been teaching her to recognize things on the road. She can catch up with one wording word like the car, road, tree, flower, grass and I'm quite happy with that. So, I started to try two wording words. First, I tried the "lamp post" but she kept on saying "lamp". After several attempts, I said "no..no..no.. is lamp post laa..". This time she finally make up the word, she said "lamp post laa..". Hahaha...this really makes her father laughing at her..ooh no...perhaps my hubby is laughing at me!

A good environment is also very important in terms of building one's character and attitude. I have been teaching for many years and I personally find that children even adults are easily influenced by the people around them, needless to say TODDLER. Toddler is naive. They have no sense of right or wrong. They don't understand what is beating, why you beat her. So, they are even easier influenced by people around them. Just like my daughter, she follows what she saw her cousins were doing. I remember clearly that she followed them jumping down from the sofa. It's dangerous but she has no sense of that. If she really fell down and broke her teeth then, I guess she will understand that it is wrong to do so. But, prevention is better than curing. This is what I did. I neither scold nor beat her and her cousins. First, this is because they are not my children, I have no rights to scold them. Second, scolding and beating is not very effiency in educating her. So, I talk to her nicely. If one day, she repeats, I will punish her ( not physical punishment ) but something that are more direct to the point. For example, no sofa for her for a day or two or cleaning up the sofa as she had made it dirty. Honestly speaking, from that day onwards, I never bring her to her cousin's house. Perhaps, I'm over-protected but this is the best and the most effiency way from letting her learning all the bad manner.

A relaxing and enjoyable environment is also very important when you try to teach your children. Make the whole teaching process very interesting with singing, playing, exercising and so on. Doing art work is what really attract them.

Toddler's span of attention is really short. Make each lesson as short as 5 minutes. Time can be extended as toddler gets older. You could have a short break within each lesson or maybe have a bite. Above all these, you as the educator must be patient. Don't get angry easily, don't give up easily. Try again and again, today, tomorrow, the day after tomorrow...one day, your children will get it right. All the best to all the mothers, fathers and educators!

She is my Angel.

A few days ago, I had a serious migraine. So, I asked my husband to massage in order to ease the pain. Then, my daughter pushed away her daddy and massage for me. After that, she rubbed both her hands and pressed her hands on my forehead. I began to laugh as I do understand her meaning. I have been doing so when she had stomache. I will put some ointment on my hands, rubbed and pressed on her stomache.

Then, I asked her "Why you didn't put some ointment on your hands?" She did it as I told her (she pretended to open a bottle and pour some ointment on her hands). Again, I laughed. I'm glad that she does know how to take care of me. She is my Angel.