Friday, October 28, 2011

Children's Day 2011

Li Syuen and her friends had been practising the Children's Day Song for quite some time. My girl practised the song every day. She sang it to me, to her sister and to her daddy. Every day she reminded me that "tomorrow" is Children's Day but her definition of "tomorrow" is like 2 weeks away!! She is so looking forward for "the day"!
I attended the celebration too. This is the newly-built indoor hall of SJK(C) Kuala Kuang. Don't misunderstand, this is not my girl's school..hehehe...


They had their Children's Day celebration together every year including Sports Day, Graduation Night and some other activities.


Performance by the primary school student and my girl's kindergarten. Although each performance performed only for a few minutes on the stage but I knew that they had put in lots of effort and time. What can I say?? "WELL DONE!"


Enjoying her meal with her friends at the canteen.


Posing with her Children's Day gift (Angry Bird book and stationery). She forgot all about her goodie bag :P


Well, this is her 2nd year of celebrating Children's Day, she will be celebrating it for the next coming 8 years; hopefully she will enjoy it to the fullest before stepping into secondary school life! Whomspp..I'm thinking a bit far, I guess! Hahahaha....

Monday, October 24, 2011

Hubby's Birthday 2011

When we were dating, we used to have "special" birthday celebration. After we got married, both of us were packed with workload and of course, with our newborn baby, Li Syuen. As a novice parents, we learnt from a to z all about parenthood. Birthday celebration no longer a significant memory for the both of us. We kept it real simple, with just a meal together, blowing off the candles on the cake. Every year is the same, the only difference is the venue, types of cake and not forgetting the addition of our family members (Syuen and Ning).

This year, not to say to make it a memorable or significant birthday celebration but a celebration more involving my two little monkeys. We decided to make a birthday card for Oscar. I browsed a few website and finally found this HP Creative Studio http://h30393.www3.hp.com/printing/app/us/en/consumer/photo-borders.aspx
This is the birthday card done by us. Li Ning chose the card and Li Syuen chose the photo.

The inside of the birthday card, Li Syuen wrote her name and Li Ning stamped her thumb print.

Then, we secretly went out to buy the gift. This is a good time for both girls to think and decide. At first, Li Syuen chose an Angry Bird toy for Oscar then, I asked her "Is this for you or for daddy?" She smiled and put it back. After much discussion, we decided to buy a zip file which was chosen by Li Ning.

Li Syuen chose a lovely gift wrapper, with many colourful heart-shapes.

And the two little monkeys chose their own "gift" too.

We had our secret mission done in the office while Oscar was outstation.

Early in the morning, both girls presented the card and gift to their daddy while I stood by to capture the MOMENT. Daddy was surprised and overjoyed, with his broad-width smile. Too bad, my skill is not good enough..I didn't on the flash!!! The photo turned out to be like this.

Then, they posed for a nicer picture.

Hubby is so surprised and overjoyed!

A very last minute decision, we dined out at Oh Sushi, De Garden. This is my all-time favourite, soft crabby!! And my naughty Syuen can't wait to take the first bite!!

Simply love this photo...

She thought that I didn't notice..she was trying to tear the seaweed! Hahahaha..

Black Pepper Chicken Set, ordered by Oscar.

I ordered Terriyaki Chicken & Tempura Set.

Coconut Sorbet ordered for both girls. Too bad that the cocoa sorbet was out of stock!

Enjoying her sorbet so much!

End this chapter with a photo of Li Ning and I. :)

Friday, October 14, 2011

婚姻关系比亲子关系更重要!

为什么婚姻关系比亲子关系更重要呢?

家庭愈是以子女为中心,孩子就更变本加厉地以自我为中心;当孩子愈难以满足或讨好,养育工作就成为一件吃力的事。这是现代父母的盲点。所以,以家庭的人际关系来排列,[夫妻]这一环实在不可忽视。若要教好孩子,应该优先处理好婚姻关系;若要做好父母的角色,应该先学做好夫妻的角色。

婚姻关系优先处理好有三个优点:
1)从小子女学到良好的两性相处模式,人格较健全成熟,往后的情爱关系也会比较稳定。
2)当子女成才过程中出现任何状况,由于夫妻关系不错,就可以第一时间内,结合两人的智慧和关心来处理。
3)从小子女不会因为得到过多的注意力而变得自我中心,不听管教。

因此,如果您有以下的习惯,请改掉:
1)直呼[老公]为[爸爸]或称呼[老婆]为[妈妈],最好还有其他亲密的称呼,例如[亲爱的]或[老公]。
2)整晚陪伴子女睡觉,子女应学习尊重爸妈有单独相处的需要。

为什么呢??
夫妻才会注意到自己在婚姻中所扮演的角色,便会有更弹性的空间来自我调整。至于睡觉的问题,婚姻生活里,夫妻同床重要?还是亲子同床重要?如果子女哭闹不休,就一定要顺从她/他的意思,今后要如何继续教下去呢?

以上是我很想和朋友们分享的小小技巧。(^ ^)

知足常乐的真面目

12月24日2010年,我们一家第一次参加了一位朋友的“谢神”仪式。(我不是很清楚那是什么仪式,也不了解他真正的意义,如果我用词不当,请多多包涵)。


这也是我们第一次打卦,很有趣。打卦时,你必须求你想要的东西,之后便得知吉或凶。当Oscar讲解说,“darling,你必须想一件你很想求的事,只能一件”,奇怪的是我竟然脑袋一片空白,用心想了好久好久,就是想不到。我是一位很有野心的人,竟然想不到要求些什么!那是我吗??


脑海里想着“我有一位很爱家也很顾家的老公,一对很贴心的女儿,健康还好(必须注意自己和家人的饮食),事业以名气(我不敢说很成功但我很满意),钱财(我们没有很多钱但够用),人缘(再好的人缘如果本性不佳也没什么两样),幸福美满(那是要付出以经营)”


想到这里,我不经意地想起这四个字“知足常乐”。对,我很满意我现在的生活,我也很快乐,那不是已经足够了吗。当时,我真正感受到了知足常乐的喜悦以及它那奥妙的意义!那种感觉无法形容!“看开”,“放下”,“舍得”在那一瞬间变得透明化。我想也许有一天,当有人问你想要什么时而你想不到你最想要的东西是什么时,当你无所求时,那你已经懂得“知足常乐”,“看开”,“放下”以及“舍得”。

在此,我希望我身边的朋友们,像我一样,有一天能真正体会到知足常乐的真正意义!

Monday, October 10, 2011

Teacher, A Noble Job

Thinking back, I started to be a part time tuition teacher when I was at the age of 15. I still remember that I had a pair of Primary 1 and Primary 2 students. I taught them English, Malay, Chinese and Maths. Then, after I obtained my Grade 8 Piano at the age of 17, I taught piano. I stopped teaching when I went to University Putra Malaysia for my Degree of Music Technology.

After graduation, I started to teach again from nursery to kindergarten, to tuition center, to adult lesson and finally teaching in my own center. Yup, I love to teach and enjoy teaching, getting close to toddler, to children, to teenager and even to adult makes me feel younger and wiser.

As a teacher, I get to know all types of people. There are really so many kinds of people which is far beyond your imagination. I gained experience on methods of teaching and also how to communicate and how to deal with different types of people, especially those unreasonable people.

I know that there is always stress in every job but stress in the educational line seems to be greater. There are lots of stress that I have to deal with. I have to deal with results, parents, children, competitor, education department, lesson plans, image, reputation and so much on. So much effort I had put on my passion that I had neglected the signal of my body. I always pushing myself beyond the limit and perhaps, I had pushed myself too hard.

When I was sick, I still attended to classes; when the exam is around the corner, I cancelled my trip, giving free extra classes, hoping that the children could get good results. Being a teacher, I wouldn't ask for any returns as this is the passion that keeps me going on. Of course, sometimes I faced disappointment too. When the children get good results, the parents will say that it is all because their children are smart. When the children get bad results, the parents will say "this teacher doesn't know how to teach". Felt so sad over it but I still keep holding on.

At the beginning of the year, I attended a talk about parenting. That lecturer explained that the parents who is working as a teacher, a jeneral or a politician is a DISASTER to children. Without much explanation, I instantly understood the meaning and luckily, I understood this concept years back before I was expecting my first baby. I am still a "mother" at home and I am not a "teacher" at home.

When my body sent out warning signal to me, I knew that it was time for me to go to a doctor for a check-up. My blood pressure is 130/60, mild migraine became serious migraine, shoulder pain had now became hardened and having heavy flow of period. I took from Western medication to traditional Chinese medication. And this is also the time when the Chinese tabib told me that being a teacher is a DISASTER to your health, they often have high blood pressure, hardened muscle, muscle pain, migraine and irregular period(for female teacher). She is the second person who told me that being a teacher is hard.

I was shocked to find that being a teacher could lead to problems, directly or undirectly. I had a sudden feeling of lost, a sudden feeling of emptiness, a mixture feeling. Then, came the day where I met some of my students who had graduated. They are now doctors, engineers, accountants and so on. They are now profession! Those who are not in the professional field lead a stable and healthy life, at the very least, they are not involved in any crime. I taught them not just in academic but also their attitude toward their life, which I put as my priority in teaching. Should I feel contented? Perhaps "SATISFICATION" is a stronger word to use. For all the sacrified time and energy, it's all worthwhile.

Out of the blue, I strongly feel that being a teacher is NOTHING BUT a NOBLE job. I TEACH FOR A BETTER WORLD!

Wednesday, October 5, 2011

Chalkboard , Whiteboard & Paperboard

I bought this from IKEA. It has 3 functions. It can be a chalkboard, a whiteboard and a paperboard. I really love this very much including my girls too. It is sure an ideal drawing tool. Some might ask me why use a 'board' while we can just give our children some paper to draw on a table.

Well, writing on a vertical surface plays an important role in fine motor development. It exercises the developing arm and wrist muscles. When writing vertically with chalkboard or whiteboard, children's wrist naturally go into the proper position of writing.

Li Ning used both her hands to write..hehehe..she is very happy.

This is their masterpiece.

Some parents might be afraid of the dust caused by the chalks, well, you can go for the whiteboard!

Still you are worried of the stain caused by the whiteboard marker then, you can go for the paperboard.


As for me, I like them to experience any kinds of writing tools. They can experience the different feel, different touch and different way of writing. Like what I used to say, forget about the mess, just let your children enjoy the fun!