For A Better Environment

I have been always wanted to bring Li Syuen to friends' and relatives' house but something always holds me back. Sometimes, my friends and relatives will also bring their children to our house. To what I have been observing, I found that I couldn't stand some children's and parents' attitude and character. Am I being too fussy? Or am I being overprotected?

I really love my daughter and I want the best for her. What I gave her might not be the best (for some other people's thought) but one thing that I'm very sure of is that I gave her all that I have unconditionally.

One thing that I seriously care is my children's character and attitude. And of course, their health too. So far, I have been very responsible in her health and of course, the baby in my womb. And I hope I will have the willpower to continue on.

Talking about character and attitude, I really couldn't stand those parents who love to compare their children with the others. "Eh, your daughter still doesn't know how talk arr??" , "Eh, your daughter is darker than my daughter." , "My children have my family genetic which is very good in Mathematics." "My children have high IQ." Oh my God, what kind of parents is that?? I'm indeed very shocked when I heard all these nonsense.

In fact, I wouldn't mind they tell me all those nonsense but please don't do it in front of the children. This is not good for both my daughter and their children. Children do understand what the adults are talking about. You might not be awared that what you talk day by day, bit by bit will bring up whatsoever your children. What I do believe is every child has his/her own milestone. You can definitely compare things or products but not your own flesh blood. They are not products. We know that comparing and talk negatively in front of the children is for sure not good for the children but please do remember that praising TOO MUCH in front of the children will also bring "side-effect" to the children.

One more thing that I couldn't stand is cleanliness. I don't understand why some parents overlook their children's cleanliness. This is a very basic matter that we have to take care of everyday, every hour, every minute. I met before children with dirty hands and feet that came to my house, some even wore dirty clothing. Yup, my daughter played with them, you know, they are your guests!! You wouldn't want to say something to offend them.

Children do get dirty, this I won't deny. My daughter gets dirty too especially when eating time cause I let her feed herself. She gets dirty too when she plays in the garden, building her sandcastle. After playing or eating, you can just give her a bath or just clean her up. It is as easy as ABC. Being clean could save your children from any germs and be healthy always. Lucky for me, my daughter loves cleanliness and I believe this is how we bring her up, to love cleanliness.

Choosing playmate for your children might be tedious. Oh no, did I sound too arrogant?? But, sorry to say that I do choose my daughter's playmate. First, of course cleanliness. Second, character and attitude. For sure every parents wouldn't want their children learning bad manner or action from other children. For example, if you let your child to play with a child who knows how to talk foul words, I can tell you for sure that your child will learn it in no time at all. I did not meant to be so arrogant, choosing playmate for my daughter. Maybe my daughter is being chosen by other parents to be or not to be their child's playmate. No one knows. In fact, I do not mind about this. I can choose people, people can also choose me. At least, I know that I'm trying my best to provide a better environment for my child. Some people think that if you let children to explore, to communicate with various of people, they will learn somehow. But, to me, I still think that this is not suitable for my daughter at such a tender age. Her thinking is still so naive. I will let her explore when she is older, around age 4 when she is better in jugding. For now, I think I will stick to my point.

Never Look Down On Toddlers' Ability

Li Syuen knew how to talk when she is about 10 months old. Everyone thought that the first word she learned is "mummy" or "daddy". Sad to say that the first word that she learned is "fish". Then, she knows how to speak "ball-ball", "want", "don't want", "daddy" and so on. Yup, even "daddy" she also knew already but not "mummy" until recently, she starts calling me. Of course, I feel so happy in fact, OVERJOYED. I answered with a big smile.

One thing I realised is that she only calls me when she needs me to be around. Every time when I tried to walk away, she would kept on calling "mimi, mimi". And she found that it is very interesting to see my response. Then, she will show you her mischievious look. I found that she knew many words just that she wanted to be praised and to be responded when saying some words.

Now, she is already 20 months old. She knew how to speak in sentences but I still couldn't make her to say what I wanted her to say. She will automatically speak in sentences when she wanted something especially when she is in anger. I'm indeed surprised when her nanny told me that she asked her husband "Uncle, are you eating meat balls?" From that day onwards, I do really listen carefully to what she is talking. And I never imagined that she does speak in sentences, just that we are so use to her mumbling and that we are 'looking down' on toddlers' ability, we never realized that she is good in talking.

Now, I do not force her to speak according to what I say but I just chatting with her to make her speak naturally. I think this is the best way to let her explore in communication.
Just weeks ago, I brought her to my elder sister-in-law's house to have some fun with her cousins. When they were playing ball, my daughter hit her cousin's arm. I asked her why she did that and she answered me "Because I wanted the ball." I'm so shocked that she knew how to use the conjunction "because".

Everyone in the living room were so shocked and of course, we were laughing away..So, never ever estimate toddlers' ability. Never ever look down on them. Don't think that they can't, just that they don't want to show their ability or maybe you haven't found the right way to encourage or to boost their ability and talent.

When a parents talks too much.

Lots of parents will nag at their children, "Eat faster." , "Keep your things." and so on. I tell myself and always remind myself not to be like other parents. To my surprise, I never thought that what I have been doing every day turns out to be "nagging" (I think).

Everyday, I will bring my daughter to her nanny's house. Everyday, I will tell her to behave. In Chinese, I tell her to "kuai kuai". Just like usual, I bring her to her nanny's house and my little angle tell me a magic spell.."Mummy, you kuai kuai hah."

I'm so shocked and surprised by what she has told me. She really takes my words and she wants me to do the same too. And of course, I will listen to her as she does listen to me. From this matter, I learn that toddler really learns through repetition without stress.

Oh NO!Pregnancy has become a TREND!!

I'm now in 10th weeks of pregnancy. Time really waits for no man. When my hubby and I first learnt that I'm having the second baby, we are so thrilled!! We have been waiting so long for this little second to arrive. And now, I'm finally pregnant, we are overjoyed!

Later on, I learn that people around me are having baby too. I'm so happy for them too. In fact, to some people, I might not be happy for them. I'm not trying to be mean but I never ever thought that a friend of mine "force" herself to have a baby just to compete with me. Now, she is i think 5 weeks pregnant. I didn't feel happy for her at all in fact, I really pity her. Why she has to live in other people's world??Oh NO! Pregnancy has become a TREND!!

To all couples that are planning to start their family life, please do think carefully.. this is not for fun.. this is for real.. You might have a baby at any time but once you give birth to them, please TAKE CARE of them. Care for them. Giving birth is easy, the hardest part is taking care of them. Before you pregnant, please do think carefully the factor below:

• Time (spend quality time doing quality activity)
• Financial (in terms of nutrition, education, insurance etc.)
• Mind and Soul (right FAMILY CONCEPT, be prepared for any unexpected incident)
• Attitude (set good example)
• Love and Care (loving and caring for them for REAL, not just for acting in front of people)
• Energy (accompany and involve in their activity)

I hope that the factor above is useful to all parents-to-be. Anyway, I wish all fathers and mothers is enjoying their parenthood. May you have a HAPPY FAMILY.

劝告妙方（抽烟）

抽烟的人都知道抽烟是对身体有害得但是，要他们戒烟并不是一件容易的事。想要他们戒烟的亲戚或朋友们，别太心急！

有时候你也心急也没效果。也许你能让你的孩子帮你这个忙。
我读过一本书，有一位孩子对他爸爸这样说的，“抽烟的人心肠真好，每天造云梯，把家人一个个推上云梯，送到天上做神仙。哪要什么仙丹，想早点升天当神仙，找抽烟的人吸二手烟就行了。”我相信很多爸爸听了这番话后，会突然领悟！！

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